Success comes before you even see it, don’t get fooled
We are all seeking for success. Every one of us has a different perspective on what success is to us. Some of us deem it as wealth, some believe it is happiness, and for some, impacting people is their measure.
So what is Success?
By definition — Success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.
However, that ‘aim’ or ‘purpose’ have always been evolving, and it is so different from the first time we think about it. When we were younger, we had very little expectation, and success could mean getting that grade we want for an examination or into that high school we have always longed for.
Then in our teenage years, it might mean getting that one partner that loves us oh so profoundly because the concept of ‘love’ made us fall deep into a pit.
Soon as we grow older and adulting starts kicking in, success to some of us means financial stability, and to some of us, it just means seeing our loved ones smile and be happy.
The Intent
It got me to think, what are people’s intentions for that aim or purpose? It is because we are all out to seek approval by another individual — by our bosses, spouse, family or friends? Or is it the approval we seek internally?
I stood in front of a mirror and started to admit every intention of my aim and purpose and realised — The lie often consumes us and we tell ourselves — we live a life that we think we should live by and not what we want. I guess what’s worst is that we are oblivious to that fact because that ‘lie’ we tell ourselves, becomes a part of us.
So, what is your definition of success, and why do you want these successes?
Coming to Terms with Ourselves
To me, the true meaning of success is finding yourself and your place in this world. It is about being able to come to terms with who we are as individuals and not get misled by the ‘role models’ we see on screen.
Have you ever met anyone so sure of themselves, they have found their purpose and passion? They are confident because of this certainty that they have inside of them and that confidence leaks no vibes of arrogances, plainly just assurance of themselves.
These people have found that inner joy within them and more often than not, (at least for my encounters) they are relatively doing good in life. It’s this self-seeking joy discipline, this belief that ‘true joy comes from within’, that makes them no longer need to please anyone. They take every step in life with a stride because of that inner stability they experienced.
They approach things from their heart because they no longer seek approval from anyone and situations naturally fall into place because it is all done from the heart.
The ‘Point’ of Success
I have always been struggling to explain my thoughts on this but let me try:
Sometimes we hit a point of enlightenment, and we finally experience that ‘eureka’ moment. That moment when we are so sure of ourselves doing something, and everything merely falls into place. It happens before it even materialises.
Acknowledging that we have experienced success the moment we are sure of ourselves, is vital. It does not matter if that ‘success’ has materialised or not, embrace that win. We often measure success only after we see results or things emerging, and we get demoralised soon after, losing that momentum inside of us.
The Irony
When that glow in you shines so brightly after experiencing your moment, it reflects in your life and career. Everything starts to fall in place because you ignore the noises around you, and you are only focused on your journey. You work towards your goal undistracted, and you eventually get there.
People start to see you differently because of that clarity you have in what you do and your choices. They begin to mimic your day to day habits. (Remember seeing those motivational post online where they talk about successful people daily habits?) They began to think these actionable habits are truly what makes someone successful, and they start doing them.
Don’t get me wrong. All these are great and are definitely good habits to follow. Still, we need to understand people experience success at Point A (refer to the above image), not at Point B. All along, we have just taken things on the surface and blindly follow.
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